Well as men get older it might take longer to get an erection - or keep an erection hard enough for intercourse. And maybe the usual thing just doesn't hold that same attraction. By age 65, it is said that about 20 to 25% of men have this problem at least one out of every four times they are having sex. There may be exacerbating issues like heart issues, high blood pressure, or diabetes and medicines to treat that. And stress also has a part in diminishing drive.
But all this and general aging should not take away from the sexual experience. Nor should pleasure be replaced with the frustration of not being able to perform as you did 30 years ago. So what's the answer. Adapt the sexual experience. I know many of my mature age clients have thought a little out of the straight box - and moved a little laterally to embrace the transexual experience - or the duo experience. But it is more than that. It is about experiencing touch and sensations on another and different level.
So don't despair (we're here).