Xena

A body with all the bits

2012-02-17T21:23:00.002-08:00

Some trans-girls are considered she-goddesses

Made In Secret

2011-09-22T03:56:00.001-07:00

An interesting blog.

http://madeinsecret.tumblr.com/

Why is it that we find it easier sometimes to be sexually free with a stranger - but not with someone we have been with for a long time. Judgement? But maybe that person is also keeping their fantasies locked away.

T...ips

2011-09-21T04:44:00.000-07:00

"We can survive the disapproval of others. The feeling can be painful, but it's nothing compared to the disapproval of ourselves. Your personal well being and your ability to love another cannot survive your dislike or disrespect of yourself. If you dislike yourself, you'll never be comfortable with your sexuality." I read this in a good article by Dorothy Hayden.

So some things to remember about feeling good about your sexual life journey:

Feel good about desire. Anxiety is a erotic 'killer'. Relax and be in the moment. Try different things and experiment with fantasies that make you feel good. Eat well and plenty of exercise. Try quit smoking and restrict drinking (both effect erectile function). But mostly feel good about yourself, and then you can feel good about giving and being intimate with your partner. Try be sexually open with your partner. The hardest to admit - might be that you're attracted to T-girls. But I've seen couples that have embraced that.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/3721093

Painful Dilemma

2011-09-21T02:58:00.000-07:00

History is filled with stories of a masochistic/spiritual connection. It was often connected to some spiritual transformation. And religious texts are filled with flagellation and bondage. Then about 100 years ago it became a perversion in Pathology terms. In the thousands of years before that, however, a masochistic-spiritual connection prevailed throughout most of civilization. Whereas psychology considered masochism as a disease, pre-nineteenth century religion regarded it as a cure. The ancients were in touch with the spiritual, physical and emotional value of masochism. For them, it was an essential part of reality; a combination of the soul in a tortured state, exquisite pain and unbearable passion that brought them closer to experiencing union with something greater than their individual egos.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6087038

Escorts & Trading Places

2011-09-15T05:51:00.001-07:00

I sometimes watch “Cops” on TV and am still appalled at how the law there views and treats prostitutes and their clients. It feels like one’s watching something out of the ‘dark ages’. So do you remember back in 1997 when Eddie Murphy was picked up in Hollywood with a T-girl in his car. I felt sorry for him as the papers tried to make fun of him. Well apparently the famous actor, who has been married several times, likes being with transsexuals, and has a preference for transsexual escorts. And according to a former Hollywood madam, Renata, she said she often sent transsexual escorts to Murphy's trailer during the shooting of Trading Places. (Pic of just a Tgirl)

StraighT & Trisexuality

2011-09-09T21:56:00.000-07:00

I read recently "My boyfriend recently confessed his attraction to t-girls". Okay a bit more on this subject about the "straighT" man: I really think this subject is confused and is often brushed under the carpet by sex professionals. The easy answer is to say (all) men attracted to T-girls are bisexual or have homosexual tendacies, but I really think that's way off the mark. I've said before in previous blogs - that most men attracted to T-girls are straighT (with a capital T). Bisexuality = sexually attracted to both genders; homosexuality = same gender, and straight = opposite sex, and so sexual attraction is essentially divided into gender-attraction.

From my experience, gay men are NOT attracted to shemales. Maybe there are a few men that are bisexual, but I'd say the large majority of men attracted to T-girls are turned on by the feminine traits (whether this be boobs, face, skin etc) - and that her 'addition' is merely a bonus to that feminine physical (even though penis's belong primarily to males). In this instance her penis becomes another sexual attribute and expands the exploration of the straighT guy's sexual experience - which is great. It means he can extend his experience without crossing the gender/sexuality barrier. For some straighT guys, it is still confronting to explore too far, but the more 'fem' the experience is, the more comfortable is the exploration. In the end, I think pre-op T-girls are really a third gender - and so this means there must be a small section of the population that are 'Tri-sexual'. So maybe sex professionals should start considering: Straight, homosexual, bisexual and two additions, straighT and trisexual, more thoroughly.

(L animated image of Sarina - visit sarinavalentina.com)

Transsexuals are from Neptune

2011-09-08T05:27:00.000-07:00

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and transsexuals are from Neptune - and in Greek mythology 'God of the sea'. So if you're meeting a transsexual for the first time, it can be intimidating (and exhilarating - especially if you going to see her naked as well). The porn sites kind of distort the view of shemales as useful toys, but you have probably unknowingly been served by a T-girl at the bank, or at a computer shop.

I know many men who would like to date a transexual, but feel restrained by society - so prefer to meet in secret. This sometimes adds to the social baggage that T-girls often have to deal with. But I've dated several lovely men who were proud to have me hanging off their shoulder. But as with any dating couple - you have to be compatible in more than just physical attraction. There is a site tsgirlfriend.com which gives some advice about expanding your dating ideas to the T world. (Do you remember Tula, the Bond girl. Picture of her, Caroline Cossey later in married life)

Lucca Beauty Pageant

2011-09-07T04:56:00.000-07:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1sEm1nCtEg

Some interesting and funny comments on the trans pageant youtube link above (though I don't really agree with the initial comment on sexuality).

My 2050 Prediction

2011-09-07T04:47:00.001-07:00

Sabrina's seriously sexy.

I predict by 2050, 10% of the population will be bending their birth gender in some way, and relationships with transsexuals will almost be 'mainstream'.

I hope many of you reading this would like that. But in the meantime, you can contact 'gals' like me (and Sabrina pictured here).

"Maitresse"

2011-08-30T17:49:00.000-07:00

There is this interesting old movie (Maitresse) about a common thief played by Gerard Depardieu. He breaks into a house of a professional dominatrix and then begins to help "train" her clients - and then finds himself falling love with her. It's an odd ball 70's film and seductively watchable - as a French movie can be. I venture there too for clients sometimes.

Hidden Asset

2011-08-29T01:59:00.000-07:00

He had taken a hot shower, and was now waiting for her. The anticipation was watching the woman enter and stand before him, silhouetted by the corner lamp. Lace stockings led to feet in 6 inch heels. He then eyed the curves of her breasts as she moved forward and knelt on the bed before him, flicking her hair back - her lips red and eyes passionately shadowed. But it was the deception hiding ...tucked hidden beneath black lace panties that took his breath away. (Pic could be me, but it's a younger tgirl from Europe)

More on the "T" Gene

2011-08-26T23:16:00.001-07:00

I am amazed by the lack of acceptance out there for the "straighT" man. There is all this talk of Straight, Bi and Gay and, I mean, what about GLBT? Tagged on the end is the group of Transgendered folks. But that's about their gender orientation and not their sexuality.

So what about the thousands or tens of thousands of guys that are attracted to the shemale body - the feminine TS woman that has that bit extra. This demographic is completely ignored or is it just not spoken about. We know its there by the fact that there are many TS escorts advertising daily (and that includes me). I have hardly - maybe never met a gay man who wanted to be intimate with me. A few were Bi, but I'd say 95% were essentially straighT- with a capital T. I spoke to an anthropologist the other day doing a study on sexuality, and even she seemed ignorant of this special and wonderfully open group of guys (and girls). (Pic of Estelle Lamore in TS Seduction @ kink.com)

Thanks for a Journey

2011-08-21T00:43:00.000-07:00

When I started on this journey several years ago into the world of providing myself as a 'service', I had no idea of the kind of people I would meet. But I would like to say thanks to the many considerate, respectful and really wonderful (and oh so normal) clients I have come across.

I'd like to think that I am not only providing my exotic body for sexual T-desire, but also for that moment in time - offer an intimacy and brief friendship that makes our brief encounter a truly special one for you.

The "T-Factor"

2011-08-12T02:41:00.000-07:00

I read this blog recently: "My boyfriend recently confessed his attraction to t-girls, so I'm searching to understand."
One reply: "i have never admitted this to anyone of my friends coz im worried what they might think of me... i tried to analyze what the hell is going on...i mean i'm straight so i searched the net for guys like me and guess what? i found an army of straight men attracted to transsexuals. So why would a female loving man be attracted to a t girl? i found tons of explanations.
Another reply: "Why am I attracted to transexuals - I just am. Why not."
Another: "Forget labels. Stop thinking. Enjoy what you like doing"

Sex = Health

2011-08-10T01:14:00.000-07:00

Cardio.
Emotional Wellbeing
Heavy Breathing raises the amount of oxygen in cells.
Lowers Cholesterol.
Pain Relief. May reduce arthritic pain, headaches etc.
DHEA a popular supplemental hormone, is released naturally during lovemaking.
Prostate Protection. Regular ejaculation might prevent prostate problems.
Togetherness increases levels of oxytocin secreted by the pituitary. This "bonding hormone" may encourage more lovemaking.
Hormones. Regular lovemaking can increase a woman's estrogen level and protect her heart and keep her vaginal tissues more supple. Exercise increases testosterone, which helps keep men's bones and muscles strong.
Stress Relief - Definitely. (Right - pic of Russian Tgirl)

Hormones

2011-08-06T00:27:00.000-07:00

Is attraction to the TS form something to do with hormones. I don't think so, but there are some interesting facts. The primary sex hormones are oestrogen and testosterone. Men and women have both of them, but with aging a strange thing happens. Women start to lose their dominant oestrogen hormone - resulting in many going onto HRT, but with men it is different. As they age, testosterone levels drop, but their oestrogen levels start rising! The effect is "they" say, that men become more “esty” - that is - sensitive, emotional, and receptive. Anthropologist, David Gutmann, has studied aging in societies throughout the world and found that men and women reclaim the aspects of themselves that had to be repressed. Interesting, but not sure if this translates to one's sexuality.

The Secretary

2011-08-05T23:13:00.000-07:00

He wanted a secretary from an upmarket city office to arrive and then submit to his desires - but to the absolute detail. And that is something I can really do well - Fulfill any of the bosses needs, especially if its in the honeymoon suite that he had booked for the afternoon.

Free Yourself

2011-07-25T00:16:00.000-07:00

Each one of us is in the process of our unique and individual sexual evolution. If you are looking at my blog you are already in the process of thawing society's often rigid views about gender and sexuality - and conditioning about about the masculine and feminine. This thinking has been mostly imposed on us, and it generally limits our sexual exploitations - or makes one feel guilty in exploring them. Experimenting with fluidity, without judgment, can heal us emotionally and make us feel good about ourselves - and give us a chance to experience the beauty of being alive.

Namesake

2011-07-13T06:53:00.000-07:00

New Zealand actress Lucy Lawless played Xena the Warrior Princess.

Sizzlingly Hot

2011-07-08T00:43:00.000-07:00

These Russian Girls are quite something. Click Here
And for Kink.com viewing Click Here

Erotic Interest

2011-07-07T22:22:00.000-07:00

Behind the petals are the hidden assets of the T girl. We love being female and expressing our femininity, knowing we have more than usual. The phenomenon of men being attracted sexually to 'shemales' is known as "gynandromorphophilia" in scientific literature - a term coined by Dr. Ray Blanchard. It describes the erotic interest of men interested in T girls with these guys overwhelmingly identifying as heterosexual. Not suprising, as we overwhelming identify as female.

London

2011-06-17T10:34:00.000-07:00

I've managed to get around to a couple of markets between work. Attracted little attention even though I was wearing thigh high boots and a very short mini. Had some great food. Love London. I have been booked into a $900 suite for the night. Looking forward to sharing a spar.

Attraction to T-ttraction

2011-04-30T02:07:00.001-07:00

The "T" adds to an experience with a wonderful difference. I have read many blogs from partners and wives asking why and what to do about their husband's interest in T-girls. Some couples find their solution is to include this experience into their sex life. See my review.

The Hottest TS Girls

2011-04-30T01:51:00.001-07:00

I found a site for you guys out there with some really elegant pictures of the most beautiful Russian Tgirls on the planet. This is a pic of Nigina. I wish I could join their list. You can link to this site here.
Russian T Girls

Nina's Lecture on Eroticization of T-girls

2011-04-30T01:23:00.000-07:00

A great clip on T-girl Nina, giving a detailed lecture about the attraction to Transexuals.
The eroticization of M2F transsexuals

Unshackle & Discover

2011-02-19T22:36:00.001-08:00

In our daily lives we are shackled in some form or other by fear - whether this be media overexposure or general daily stress. Our sexuality is not excluded and we can hold guilt, shame or project on ourselves what others feel we should be. Write your own path. Experience "your" life journey.

Some Terms

2011-02-12T19:34:00.000-08:00

I often get enquiries about terms used. These terms apply to TS girls: active (top), passive (bottom) and versatile (both ways) describing roles during sex. Its confusing to even go into sexual orientation; for most men I meet consider themselves (and are) straight, and definitely do not fit into the 'gay' or even 'bisexual' boxes. This is what I call "straighT" (with a capital T, and I am grateful for it).

Historical Attraction

2011-02-11T18:00:00.000-08:00

In Taoist, Hindu and Buddhist art, deities often are shown as part male, part female. There are also curious traditions maintaining that humankind itself once consisted of androgynous beings. Plato described primordial man as a bisexual being, and Trans-gendered depictions of MTF priestesses are found in ancient artifacts back to the earliest civilizations in Mesopotamia, Assyria, Babylonia and Akkad. Tarot cards, which first showed up in the 14th century, have as the highest card in the deck an androgynous figure. It symbolizes completion and spiritual enlightenment. (Maybe being attracted to a transsexual is more than just sexual desire to the feminine being in the she-male form, but an unconscious desire to know and explore oneself)

Venice

2010-12-09T14:57:00.001-08:00

I've always been fascinated by Venice. Steeped in history this watery city in days gone by was a place where prostitutes could live the high life "entertaining" royalty. The Great Council of Venice declared prostitution to be "absolutely indispensable to the world" in 1358, and government-funded brothels were established in major Italian cities throughout the 14th and 15th centuries - with Venice taking the lead. I have often wondered what it would be like to have worked there.

Butt Naked

2010-12-07T22:28:00.000-08:00

One of my favourite pastimes in summer is swimming naked at night in the bay. The exquisite feeling of the cold water enveloping one's whole body. The feeling of one's nakedness while you watch the world pass by in the light of the street lamps. Well that's what I did it the other night, but as there were quite a few walkers along the beach, I didn't want to extra-shock anybody so kept on my pair of panties and dived in. And hell---forgot that I had my phone tucked into my lace undies. I lost my phone and all my contacts.

Gender of computers

2010-07-21T19:22:00.000-07:00

Computers are what gender? F - Smallest errors are stored in long term memory or M - Only one button required to turn them on?

2010-07-21T06:04:00.000-07:00

I feel very lucky that there are those very special men and women out there that are attracted to and appreciate the beauty of the transsexual body.

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